Sunday, March 02, 2008

a map for sunday

a map for sunday

yesterday was one of those days that took me by surprise. i woke up early and watched a feast of love before the kids got up. it seemed to revolve about base human flaws and i enjoyed it. then, i had to take one to work and one went to a friends for the day before a big birthday party. i found myself alone for hours, like in eight hours by myself! (this rarely happens, maybe twice a year, if that.) instead of cleaning this house, i decided to make flyers and drive to san marcos to walk & canvas the area where i am looking for a little house of my own. i took lucy mae with me and we did our thang.

when we arrived back home, i was exhausted and actually took a nap. anyone who knows me knows that naps are hard for me to do, but i did. later, i watched a map for saturday and stayed up until i had to pick up the girls from a dj-ed birthday party. while they talked about their day and the party, i cleaned the kitchen. it was definitely one of those recharge days.

something happened this week that i had decided not to write about, but it has been on my heart since wednesday and i am just going to write about it. v had her last basketball game on wednesday and i had just dropped off something at the postbox (by her school) to journey across town to the last game. when i was driving through the parking lot to get back to the road, i saw these kids doing something behind the library for the whole world to see through a chainlink fence. at first, i thought that the girl was helping the guy with his zipper, but when i turned through the lot, i realized that she was giving him a bl%wj%b with two other guys watching. they were 7th and 8th graders at my daughter's school. i know these kids and they are just kids! i pulled up to scream at them and they took off running. i still cannot believe what i witnessed and it makes me extremely sad for the young girl's lack of dignity and selfrespect. will she be able to regain it? what happens or doesn't happen in a childhood to make a girl think that is okay? my feelings weren't of judgment, but of extreme sadness and disappointment.

this morning, i woke up to blossom and shadowboxer purring in stereo on my chest with lucy under my arm. truly, that has to be one of the best ways to wake up. i have unloaded the dishwasher and refilled it, put a load of clothes on wash and am about to go clean the bathrooms and put more folded clothes away. another day to ready for the workweek, but i am going to somehow manage to fill it with quiet and clean while i wait for rain.

11 comments:

Sis said...

Oh, Dawn. That makes me so sad. I think I forget how many children in the world don't have parents who take the time to teach girls how to respect themselves and what to look for in life satisfaction...

But I am glad you had a recharge day, and are going to have a productive Sunday. I'm going for one of those myself this afternoon.
XOXO

fiwa said...

Oh Dawn, that makes me so sad. So many things I'd like to say about that, but won't. I'm glad you got it off your chest though.

I had an alone day yesterday too - they're nice sometimes, aren't they?

love u -
fiwa

Andie-The Brown Bee said...

Awww, Dawn...soooo sad and discouraging!
I AM glad you were able to have a day to yerself though! lol It's always a good day when you can get a nap in! =o] xoxo

Ginni Dee said...

That is sad on so many levels. Dealing with kids everyday, I see all kinds of neglect and abuse. I'm not sure what a parent does or doesn't do that causes a kid to have so little self-respect.

Anyway, I'm glad you had an 8-hour kickback! It's nice to do your own thing for that long. But I'll bet you were glad to have 'em all back when they got home! I know you.

XOXOXOX

Real Live Lesbian said...

That's hard to see, I'm sure. And what would you do? Tell them to stop? I doubt that they would. Probably just go somewhere that you aren't and continue on. I, too feel sorry for the girl. Truly sad.

Thanks for the well-wishes on my trip. I do appreciate it! I'll add your alpaca wish to the herd that I'll be bringing back! ;)

A bird in the hand said...

Sad and disappointed that kids not only do this but do it in full view. You have to ask where they get the idea it's ok.

Alone time is good for the soul. Me, I probably get too much alone time and have to go out once in a while.

diane said...

d~this is so sad, and sad you were a witness. i feel so sad that my heart aches for the girl. it was so tough for me as a teenager, i can only imagine what it might be like for her.....

said...

wow! this was shocking and sad to read and sad that you got witness it gal. 7th/8th graders! wow! those are babies! my heart goes out to that little girl. wow! that's all i can say.

Rachel Louise said...

What girl would DO that..??? It's sad to here that people from my middle school (Even if they were from another school) are doing that. I feel sorry for her.

Cheryl said...

That is so sad. Things are so different now then back in the day. In my daughter's school, the doors leading to the bathrooms have been removed because kids were having sex in them. I don't get it.

kansasrose said...

This is a tragedy. For the girl. For all young people. For us, as adults. Especially for the girl. I wish more adults gave a damn about their kids.